A New Take on Why We Need Confidence

I will forever be thankful for my husband’s heart.  He is the kind of man who loves to see other people empowered.  One of the greatest bonds between us is how committed we are to helping people transform in that way, becoming more powerful and solid in themselves than they ever thought possible.  I imagine it’s such a passion for us because we’ve each struggled with claiming our own power and found our way to this through martial arts.

Take Sean, who’s been doing pretty much nothing but training in the dojo, practicing on his own, and reading martial arts books since he was 5 (true story – ask his school teachers!).  He has both natural talent and ardently honed skill, and could probably be declared a lethal weapon.  Yet, as he shares in classes, he has struggled with self confidence.  I think many of us can relate.  But a key turning point in the self confidence journey seems to be when we recognize that, as Mary Oliver put it, “your playing small does not serve the world.”

Now, confidence often gets confused with an inflated ego.  But what I mean by confidence is treating yourself fairly and celebrating your reasons for being on this Earth.  To me, not showing yourself this respect is an injustice, and it has a ripple effect to others around you.

Last week, we talked about empathy as a key ingredient of respect.  The same is true of confidence and kindness.  We can appear kind at face value, but if we are not allowing ourselves to love and celebrate who we are, to be confident, then we have only scratched the surface of the kindness we can give to the world.  As Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. said, “Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.”  That includes injustice to our own self worth.  What I have found is that, when we are kind to ourselves, we are kinder to others.

And speaking of kindness, I’ve got good news!  Yoga classes are returning to Budo Mountain.  We have found a wonderful new teacher, who will be leading imaginative yoga adventures for kids on Mondays from 4-5 pm.  Your child can try it for free!  Just sign up here for your first free class.

Now, we’d love to hear YOUR thoughts.  Leave a comment below and share:

Something you’re proud of, something you know you have to offer to this world.  What are your gifts?

Kindness from the Inside Out will be our school theme this week as we get into the following techniques:

Martial Arts
Mon Tues Wed Thurs Fri
Ukemi Rolls All Ways Break Falls All Ways
Technique 1 Kids: Hicho no Kata Block and Kick

Adv Kids – Adults:  

Principles of pinning – arm pin

Kids: Hicho no Kata Step and Shuto

Adv Kids – Adults: Principles of pinning – body pin

Technique 2 Te Hodoki Tai Hodoki
Technique 3 Hanbo Kamae Hanbo: Blocks, Strikes and Chi no Kata
  • Standing Full Twists
  • Tornado Kicks
  • Cartwheels
  • 360 vault

Thanks for reading!

See you in the dojo,

~ Sensei Nesta

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