The Secret to Being Attractive: Create Your Own Gravity

Welcome to a new month!  Here at Budo Mountain, you know we absolutely love nature, and we look at everything through the lens of the natural elements.  This month, we’re exploring the qualities of Earth and asking – how can we learn to be more solid, grounded, and stable like the Earth?

One thing I love about this element is how Earth is attractive without even trying to be.  I’m talking, physically – the Earth’s solid, grounded mass literally causes it to pull things to it, like us humans for example, or the moon.  And while I won’t pretend to truly understand the intricacies of gravity and the curvature of spacetime, I will say that from my own personal experience, anything that is solid, grounded, and feels larger than life, seems to have an easy time attracting others.

In my own life, I know that to mimic this type of gravitational pull is no easy feat.  It takes a lot of time, energy, thought, and effort for me to become the person who attracts what I want to myself.  And yet, after all the initial work, the actual act of drawing what I want to myself is a piece of cake – in fact, the right thing literally falls in my lap with no effort.  It’s like creating my own gravity.

I think this is a secret recipe that I just never knew when I was growing up.  I used to think that to get what you want, you followed these steps:

  1. Decide what you want.
  2. Look around and figure out who can give it to you (this would usually be my parents).
  3. Scheme and plan on how to make that person want to do what you want them to do (much to the exhaustion of my poor parents).

As I grew up and tried to apply this same principle to friendships or relationships, I of course ran into some problems.  But it has taken me years to realize that the problem was inside of me, and something that I could change.  I think in many ways, a lot of us are living out some version of the above 3 step process, though in a less childish way perhaps.  But if we ever catch ourselves blaming someone else for our problems, or scheming of ways to get someone else to change, because then  we’ll be happy, we are not paying attention to how the Universe naturally works.

I love something I was watching yesterday from an interview with Tony Robbins.  He said, “Most people just don’t do the blocking and tackling of their life… Starting a relationship, starting a business, changing your body – it takes so much in the beginning, but once you get going, it’s actually really easy”

Blocking and tackling is also something I don’t quite understand (it’s a football thing, right?), but I get his point: Do the initial work, go through it and have a little faith and perseverance.  Let the naysayers say nay and don’t pay attention to them.  Keep going on the path that you know is right and true to who you are.  Create yourself into the person that you know will naturally attract the life you want.  And then let go.  Don’t try to push for the right things.  Trust that the right things will come to you, because you have done the work to be the right person for them.

It’s amazing how all of this comes together on the dojo mat.  We really do not have to concern ourselves so much with what the opponent is doing if we are doing our taijutsu correctly.  Yes, of course we respond to the situation at hand, but we do not need to react to it, and we certainly don’t need to control it.  What we are really doing is controlling ourselves, and doing that, the rest falls into place.

Sound a bit complex?  We’ll make it all more concrete in class as we work on the following techniques:

martial Arts
Mon Tues Wed Thurs Fri
Ukemi Forward Break Falls Forward Rolls
Technique 1 Blocks from Kamae Set 1 Strikes from Kamae Set 1
Technique 2 Leaping Down Dodging by Ducking
Technique 3 The first half of Chi no Kata The second half of Chi no Kata

Kasumi Club: (most likely):  Koshikudaki – Countering a throw “Destroying the Hips”; Happo Geri – Eight uses of kicking

  • Cartwheels 
  • Dive rolls 
  • Crow Pose

A reminder to everyone that our Fall 2019 After School Registration is open!  And if you are interested in applying for a scholarship, you can check that out here.

Also, don’t forget the Valentine’s Service Project coming up Saturday, February 9th from 11:30 am – 12:30 pm.  These are open to the public and are a great way for you and your family to join a fun project and get to know the dojo community.  Sign Up Here.

Thanks for reading and I’ll see you in the dojo,

~Sensei Nesta

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